Like, SO bad. Like, "living vicariously through my friend's sister's pregnancy on the other side of the country" bad. Like, "have to hide how much I know about pregnancy because it's WIERD" bad.
The only thing, and I mean only thing I wanted to be when I grew up was a mom. I don't know if I got it from my mom brainwashing me or what, but it's always been the case. It's not that I was completely attached to a dolly or I had a bajillion younger cousins... it's just who I am.
Of course, being a modern woman in a modern society, this isn't exactly an approved career plan - hence the teaching. (Strangely enough, I have absolutely no desire to teach early years or even elementary - it's high school all the way. I guess the thought of teaching the little buggers isn't as exciting for me.) And because I want my future hubby to be happy and not miserable, he's probably not going to make enough for me to stay home with the future kids... so I'm definitely career-bound. Not that I'm miserable with the fact - I'm actually really enjoying teaching.
But here's the thing. I'm 23, almost 24. Most of my friends are freaking out that I'm getting married - I'm not even going to mention babies or they might just explode. They're doing their undergrads, grad school, job hunting or trying to figure out what career they want. They enjoy having hours to spend on tv, going out every friday and saturday (and thursday, and wednesday) nights, and splurging on food & clothes and booze. Hell, a good chunk still live with their parents!
But me? I want a baby today. No, scratch that, yesterday.
I've always known that I wanted to be a young mom - when I was 10 or 12, I actually figured that married at 21, kids at 22/23 sounded about perfect.
Hahahaha... ooh, stupid youth.
Of course, I'm not married yet... although I soon will be. But then there's another year of school, which is a big financial and emotional crunch and there's no way I want to deal with kids then. Then there's actually finding a job... and then if I find one, it takes two years of teaching to actually bet my permanent certification (my temporary one lasts a few years, but still - it'd be great to actually have that over and done with). And then there's the whole financial thing - my fiance and I are renting a great 1-bedroom apt, but I'd really like to be settled in someplace I actually own the deed to before having kids. So... that's saving for a downpayment, searching for a place, actually moving in, and getting settled. Oh, and I wouldn't mind having a dog at some point in my life... that's probably coming before the babies.
All in all, it'll probably be 5 years or so before I can think about it. FML.
And here's the sad thing - I tried, I really tried... but my future hubby basically knows all. He knows all about me reading the pregnancy websites, he knows exactly how much baby-related tv I watch, and he knows how much I want to be a mom (when we were beginning to get serious, I actually told him, "Not having kids is a deal-breaker". That was an awkward conversation...)
Thankfully (and trust me, I thank the lord everyday), he's not completely and utterly freaked out like I figured he would be. He actually understands, knows how excited I am, wants it to happen for me too. But he also knows the realities of the situation - I mean, he might still have another year or two of schooling once he finishes his masters. He knows that it's years and years away.
So I watch my baby shows, and I read the blogs, and I dream...
One day.